Many years not so long ago, I was a food blogger. Cakes, if we’re being pernickety, and I was pretty damn good at it. I loved it in fact, and I have the oversized jeans to prove it in the bottom of my cupboard. Gradually, my interests began to change, and I started to feel constrained by the niche of my blog. So I jumped ship and created Not Evie.
I wanted to grow this blog slowly and see how it evolved before thinking about audience and what my goals were. I played around with various categories, tried different kinds of posts and started noting what I did and didn’t enjoy writing about. Fashion had a short lifespan and was quickly disposed of. I have tried and failed at playlists, but will try again because I love music. Excitingly, I have learned that I love writing about careers, Edinburgh and travel.
But there’s one thing I haven’t been brave enough to write about yet, despite really, really wanting to.
On more than one occasion, I’ve had someone tell me that I’m the only person they can open up to about relationships, dating and sex. They say it’s because I ask the questions, don’t judge, and always invite the conversation. The truth is, relationships fascinate me! I love how everyone has a completely different idea of what a relationship is, what’s weird and what isn’t.
I’ve tried all the major dating apps, been on more dates than I can count, been in love, been confused, and certainly made things complicated for myself – repeatedly. I have the funniest stories, the sad ones and the amazingly happy ones to share. And because everyone likes to confide in me, I’ve got all their stories too…
I would feel uncomfortable throwing a dating blog into the mix right now without something to ‘justify’ it. So yes, I’m being a massive cliché and using February to experiment with a new collection of posts on Not Evie. This is my way of saying I’m going to be doing a little bit of dating blogging this month, and I’ll see how I feel about it. If it’s all massively horrible then I can just stop and call it part of my February content plan. But, if it’s amazing, then I will happily keep adding to the Short Love Stories…
So how’s it going to work? I have one rule – Short Love Stories is a consent only project. I won’t ever share any story that I don’t have permission to, and anyone named will get to see the final version before it goes live. Many of the stories will be anonymous and (hopefully) not all of them will be written by me, so start sending me your ideas!
The question is, do I start safely? Or, do I dive right in to the really good stuff?
P.S. I very much hope the family members who read this blog are on board with this…(if not, you know which posts to avoid!).